Making the Most of Furloughs for Your Kids

Furlough can easily blur together into visits with family, friends, and churches. Whether you’re back in the States for a few months or a year, it’s worth being intentional—especially when it comes to your kids. A little planning can make your time far more fruitful and enjoyable.

Set Clear Goals

Before coming back, make a list of goals for your family, then sort them by priority and create simple steps to reach each one. For example, if your children are nearing the age to get a driver’s permit, have them study while you’re still on the field so they’re ready to test soon after arriving. This gives you time to practice driving together.

If your children need medical or educational testing, don’t wait until the last minute. Research options ahead of time and create a plan of action. Appointments may take weeks to schedule, and some services may require applying for insurance before you return.

Prepare for Life Skills

When children are young, they often travel with you, but older teens may want more stability to build friendships and relationships with family members. Consider encouraging them to get a part-time job—this not only helps them save for future needs like a vehicle but also builds character and responsibility. 

Prepare for Differences

After living overseas, everyday tasks in the States may feel unfamiliar. Even something as simple as pumping gas might seem strange if it’s not allowed on your field. Use these moments as opportunities to teach your kids new skills while adjusting together to the differences.

Build Connections

One of the blessings of being part of a mission board is the events where your family can be with other missionary families. MK’s will be encouraged to spend time and get to know the other MK’s. Carve out time during your furlough to attend events and let your kids bond with other missionary kids. 

Another connection they need to make is with their home church. If they have friends and familiarity with their home church, it won’t be so hard when it’s time to come back when they are young adults. It will also help you as a parent feel better about bringing them back! 

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With a little planning, furlough can be more than a whirlwind of travel and meetings—it can be a season of growth, reconnection, and refreshment for your children.